Dealing with Stress during the College Prep Process – #CampusChat Wrapup
Takeaway Tweets & #CampusChat Transcripts from April 23, 2014 with guest Fern Weis (@ParentTeenGuide) Parent Coach & Educator, founder of YourFamilyMattersCoach.com. Click here to read the complete transcript on Storify.
Dealing with stress during the college prep process
Q1-What are the most common areas of stress among teens?
A1- #Stress for college prep goes on for years- courses, grades, SATs, apps, #parents, #financialaid #campuschat
A1-Social relationships always changing, today’s BFF is tomorrow’s enemy, pressure to conform, inclusion, exclusion, drugs #campuschat
A1- #Stress Symptom: Body image, more for girls. Too fat, thin, skin, hair, clothes #campuschat
Q2-What is stress? Is there good stress, too?
A2- #Stress Reaction – Body reacts w/hormones to uncomfortable situations or danger – fight or flight response #campuschat
A2-Good #stress -public speaking, preparing 4 dance, foul shot that wins or loses game. Event over, hormones return to normal #campuschat
A2- #Stress overload – ongoing, low or high level stress. Changing schools, divorce, death, #bullying #campuschat
Q3-How do teens respond to normal stress and stress overload?
A3-Moods/relationships-Impatient, irritable, sad, depression anxiety, overwhelmed, take it out on family/friends, stop HW #campuschat
A3-Physical- stomach/headaches, allergic reactions, hives, changes in eating, sleeping, hygiene #campuschat
A3-Self-abuse/risky behaviors –secretive, alcohol, #drugs, eating disorders, #cutting when they don’t know how to cope #campuschat
Q4-Why does stress increase during the college prep process?
A4- #Stress increase-Feeling that today’s choices are forever choices. What if I choose wrong? Make mistakes? #campuschat
A4-Pressure of maintaining grades & getting into the “best” #college, worries about #money #campuschat
A4-Long, drawn-out process, lots of waiting. Life revolves around this, in family and with friends #campuschat
Q5-How do parents increase the stress during college prep?
A5- #Stress from #parents: hover, micromanage around #grades, #homework, extracurriculars http://bit.ly/1iwViUq #campuschat
A5-Parents nag about studying, prepping for SAT/ACT, completing apps, comparing to others #campuschat
A5-Complaining about pressures of financing #college, or college #loans. #campuschat
Q6-Can you recommend some ways to de-stress during senior year and college decisions?
A6-Destress-Learn something new (cooking, art), build something, play in the snow/sand, help someone else #campuschat
A6-Mindset -Share what you’re thinking and feeling. Learn to ask for help. View problems as temporary and solvable #campuschat
A6-Physical -Get sleep. Relax (reading, hot shower, dance, sing, pets, yoga, meditation, exercise) #campuschat
Q7-What is the best response when the stress of waiting becomes overwhelming?
A7- +response -Stop checking online! Find something else to do – sports, school play, #volunteer work #campuschat
A7- +response -Avoid ‘senior slide’. Keep working in classes and make sure midterm #grades go to #college #campuschat
A7- +response -Use a trusted teacher or #counselor for support. Remember you R strong, adaptable, WILL get into #college #campuschat
Q8- How can parents help teens during the process and while waiting for acceptances?
A8-Parents-Be a great listener. Acknowledge thr feelings (I hear how frustrated/anxious/worried you are) http://bit.ly/1orvGaN#campuschat
A8-Parents-In a calm moment, ask how you can help (with the process, or to support them) #campuschat
A8-Parents-Be the voice of reason. There is no perfect #college. He’ll survive the process. Remind her of past #success. #campuschat
Q9-What are the best ways parents should deal w/ their own stress from dealing with teen stress? #campuschat
A9-Your #teen picks up and feeds off your #anxiety. Do your own de-stressing, and be there to support them #campuschat
A9-You can’t eliminate thr #stress. It may be unpleasant, but they will survive #college process & disappointment, so will you #campuschat
A9-Follow same advice you’d give them! Focus on what you can control, get busy w/ the rest of your life http://bit.ly/1eHPiIP #campuschat
Q10 –What 3 things do you want to leave us with tonight?
A10-Watch out for signs of #stress #anxiety. Normal, or signs of overload? Get help if needed #campuschat
A10- Be a good listener and help kids vent. Acknowledge what they’re feeling without judging or fixing #campuschat
A10-Make sure teens have opps for exercise, creativity, friends, positive experiences #campuschat