How I went from Over-parenting to Hands-off Parenting
Feb21

How I went from Over-parenting to Hands-off Parenting

Over-parenting — starts sooner than you think.

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Parent College Coach Tip #48: How to Help Without Hurting
Jan09

Parent College Coach Tip #48: How to Help Without Hurting

Being the parents that we are, we will want to help. And our helping is not always good. Sometimes we “help” and it ends up harming their ability to think, act, and decide for themselves. It’s easy to justify our actions but when it’s all said and done we want to raise competent, independent and decisive children. Saying all of that, how do you help without hurting?

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Today’s Helicopter Parents Next on #CampusChat
Jan07

Today’s Helicopter Parents Next on #CampusChat

Learn the signs tonight on #CampusChat with guest Suzanne Shaffer! You might be a helicopter parent if…

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Is Your Mom a Helicopter or a Tiger Mom?
May07

Is Your Mom a Helicopter or a Tiger Mom?

Mother’s Day – the second Sunday in May! A day to honor the woman who gave you birth, fed and clothed you and made sure your No. 2 pencils were sharpened before you left home to take the SAT. We’d like to pay tribute to all the moms of college-bound teens, college students and graduates. Here are some of our favorite tributes to moms:   On Smart College Visit: From the Heliparent to the Free-Range Parent On Dr. Nancy Berk: Stand-Up Psychology:  MEMO, Dr. Nancy Berk posts a precautionary memo to university administration warning them of a “tiger cub” siting on campus. She also offers great gift ideas in:  MOTHER’S DAY GIFTS FOR HELICOPTER & TIGER MOMS. And, if you’re interested in learning how to become a Tiger mom someday, read Amy Chua’s “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” available on Amazon. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY FROM SMART COLLEGE...

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The Heliparent
Nov17

The Heliparent

Hello, my name is Kelly and I'm a helicopter parent.   While I don't manage every aspect of my children's lives, I know I've been a pushy mom when it comes to encouraging them to take certain steps in school that should help them when the time comes to apply to college. It's really hard not to be that way–partly because of how my parents raised me, partly because we live in a college town where everybody's life is impacted by what goes on at the university, and partly because of the career path I've chosen. Poor kids. I've worked with colleges for 16 years which means they've been hearing about college admissions since they were born. I'd like to think I'm a "recovering" helicopter parent–that I've reached that place where I've realized my kids really don't need to me to hover (not that they ever did). Having just returned from visiting a college with my teen, I had to smile at the way some of the students on the panel responded to the question "What was your biggest adjustment when you came to college?" One student said "having to wake up on my own and I had three 8 o'clock classes!" Another said "cleaning the bathroom — there's no cleaning lady on campus — you're the cleaning lady!" A third said "managing money." While I think I've already covered those topics in my "tell you-everything-you-need-to-know-for-the-rest-of-your-life" approach to parenting, really only time and experience (their's, not mine) will tell. I hope I've reached that point where roar of the helicopter is a sound they hear only in the distance and not...

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